We were in love. And then everything changed forever.

We have been married for 5 years after being together for 9. Sceptics told us to enjoy ourselves and live life to the fullest before we started a family. Finally, when we ran out of excuses to ‘enjoy ourselves’, we took the leap of faith and joined the parenthood bandwagon. We entered this new phase feeling like two children would on their first day of school, a little excited but mostly nervous. Most of all, we felt like outsiders. 

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There were many things no one told us about being parents. But most of all, no one told us that what we felt for each other would change forever. For the 14 years we were together, we remained at the centre of our love. Love meant keeping each other happy. Lack of love meant that our needs were not being met. There was a constant focus, which now seems like pressure in hindsight, to ‘work on’ loving each other. 

With only a few months into parenthood, it feels like everything we knew about love was wrong. This new kind of love that we discovered is free. It’s free from any standards, desires or boundaries. It just is. There is no underlying sense of having to work upon love, there is a confidence that it will sustain itself. It’s that fearless kind of love. 

Maybe I can illustrate with an example. There are moments when you are in a busy place, with more than a dozen people around and your eyes rest on the one you love. You sometimes try to see them as other people would, but that’s never really possible. I have often tried to do this, just to find out if I could be objective and see him for who is he, or rather how the world sees him. I will never really know. After all the staring, what amazed me was the idea that we were once strangers, who have managed to find each other through some magic of destiny. It was about us having found happiness by finding each other. 

What has changed what I look at my husband now? Every time he smiles, talks or looks at me, I see a glimpse of my son. The love I feel now is free of thought. It is just a feeling that is neither overwhelming nor all consuming. All I know is that it fills my heart in a good way. It makes me a better person. I call it love for lack of a better word, because if this is truly what love is, then it cannot be as commonplace as it is made out to be. And if this is something other than love, then this is what truly makes the world go round.  

If this is what love really is, then I never knew love before this. Happy Valentine’s Day my dear. Our love will never be the same again.

Here is another thing in life that seems different each time I revisit it. Sometimes it reminds me of childhood, mom cooking in the kitchen, the smell of caramel, comfort food or just pure gluttony.

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Creme Caramel {6 servings}. Thank you Piarecipes for this amazing one!

Ingredients:

  • 1/2 cup caster or fine sugar
  • 2/3 cup sugar
  • 1 cup milk1 cup heavy cream
  • 1/3 cup water4 egg yolks
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons vanilla extract
 Special equipment: a pastry brush, 6 (4-ounce) ramekins

Instructions:

  • Preheat the oven to 325 degrees F.
  • Place the sugar and water in a heavy-bottomed saucepot over low heat. Let the sugar dissolve. Carefully brush the walls of the pot with a little water to prevent the sugar from crystallizing on the sides. Increase the heat to medium-high and boil until the syrup turns golden brown.
     
  • Remove from the heat promptly and carefully divide the hot caramel among the 6 ramekins. Let cool for at least 2 minutes.
     
  • In a medium saucepan, bring the milk and cream to just below a boil over medium-high heat. Meanwhile, mix together the egg yolks, caster sugar, and vanilla in a large mixing bowl. Place the mixing bowl on top of a towel to keep it from wobbling while whisking in the hot liquid.
  • Gently whisk 2 tablespoons of the hot milk mixture into the egg mixture. Slowly whisk in the remaining hot milk mixture 1/3 at a time, trying to prevent excess bubbles. Strain though a sieve.
     
  • Place 6 ramekins evenly spaced in a paper towel-lined baking dish to prevent the ramekins from sliding. Pour 6 ounces into each caramel-coated ramekin. Place on the extended middle rack of the oven. Carefully pour boiling water into the baking dish until 2/3 of the way up the sides of the ramekins. (Be careful not to get any water on the custard mixture.)
     
  • Cover the baking dish with aluminum foil and very gently slide it towards the center of the rack. Bake for about 35 minutes, or until the custards are almost fully set. Remove from the oven. Use tongs to remove the ramekins from the hot water bath. Let stand at room temperature for 5 minutes, then refrigerate until well chilled.
  • To serve, dip the ramekin in very hot water for 15 to 20 seconds. Run a sharp knife around the sides of the ramekin. Invert the custards onto serving plates. The caramel will pool around the inverted custards. Serve immediately.

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13 thoughts on “We were in love. And then everything changed forever.

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  3. Beautiful, i guess love is all about changes from time to time.
    When the simple mind is set up. We love, we hate, we choose to love.
    Because we can find it there if it was there before.
    But the truth is marriage has nothing to do with love.

    Love is a choice..

    Thank u for shering, i loved it..

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    • Every time we feel that we are at the pinnacle of love, we must remember that it can always be taken to the next level. Such is life. True for love, as it is for all other things.

      Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts. Love is truly a choice 🙂 Love that.

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